the boys of 2012

(i tried to find a "post a day" theme that i could work this into.  there wasn't one even remotely close!)

i just spent about 15 minutes looking through my archives to see if i ever wrote about the boy i ran into last night, M. i think i hinted at him in some things i love thursday posts and here, but he never got much more than that. SoCal came along then too. at the time i was still talking to S, who made this comment about the M and SoCal predicament. and when both of those flat-lined, baseballBoy asked me out. and i'm sure you're already confused.  which boy is which?!

so...
there was S.
then the guy i ran into last night, M.
and then SoCal.
and then baseballBoy.

recap and update:
 
S: made a very untimely (but in a lot of ways, a very much needed) entrance here and was in japan for 2 months (december to early february). we hung out a lot in january. he's a really nice guy and was really understanding when i was going through a really messy breakup. a lot of our conversations helped me process a lot of the mess. now he's back in the states and we still talk about everything and anything. we skype every week or so. it's not always pg-13. (ha)
 
M: an old high school friend that resurfaced late last year at a friend's wedding and other get togethers after that. i flirted as best i could for a couple months (february, march and early april). there were several gatherings and parties with high school friends and i set myself up perfectly for him to invite me out but he would always just reply, "yeah, let's all go out together blahblahblah." mid april, SoCal showed up and i sort of gave up on M and his lack of initiation. then i ran into him last night at a club in shibuya!  i was out clubbing for the first time in over 6 months and i run into him?! i had seen him across the room but he hardly registered until he walked by and made obvious eye contact and said my name as a question. he assumed i go clubbing all the time (ugh, so far from the truth). a little while later, the two guys i went with were 1. MIA and 2. sleeping on a chair in the corner, so i hung out with M and his friend and some other people i had met through my two guy friends earlier in the night. it was nice to see him, and i wanted to take it as "now timing is right" or a sign or something, but something in my gut tells me he's just not that interested. he's a self-proclaimed "rolled cabbage guy," which in my mind means if he *was* interested, i would know by now. (is that what he was trying to tell me?) in the morning when everyone parted ways, we were on the same train line for a couple stops and then we said goodbye. and that was it. booooring. haha.

SoCal: also most recently referred to as f*cking SoCal. we went on some dates, and some other nonblogged things happened, but then after the [first paragraph] incident here, we haven't talked, except for a couple sudden invites from him to get drinks. one i couldn't make (had a date with baseballBoy! haha) and the other he backed out of ("crazy phone call at work, can't get out now, sorry! my bad!!!!") but i suspect he just got a better offer from some other girl. am still trying to think of a witty way to decline his next invite, if it ever comes.

baseballBoy: coming in looking like a perfect gentleman after SoCal, we went on a date or two, and date three was a "late night tv date" (read: trains will have stopped, sleep over date) at his place (in which nothing major actually happened, but enough happened to spur on the "actually i just like you as a friend" conversation) we are...well, just friends. he still "Likes" more than half my status updates and photos on facebook though, and wants to come over for a me-cooked dinner sometime.  confusing as all get out.  over it a bit, actually, but he is a nice guy and we probably will just be friends. totally grandma/grandpa-esque friends who get excited about growing vegetables. ;)


with that, i'm taking a break.
they can call if they want,
but i'm calling all my girl friends.

up for the next month: play date with friend and her 2 kids, mt. fuji, local music matsuri/bbq party at my house, beach with new friend (the girl i met through SoCal, probably needs a nickname, we hang out a lot)...and some work somewhere in there too!  ;)